tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3706571093501032722.post1306808970237724440..comments2023-11-03T06:21:14.560-04:00Comments on Auntie Mim's: PerplexedUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3706571093501032722.post-36116243332536923442010-08-18T01:13:24.553-04:002010-08-18T01:13:24.553-04:00My heart is feeling your pain. It comes to us all...My heart is feeling your pain. It comes to us all, some sooner than others. At 85 she may not want heroic measures that cause her to feel miserable in the last days of her life. You are a strong person - I've seen it through Miss Em - maybe Miss Em needs to explore this path and see where it leads.PAK ARThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11985770093478778520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3706571093501032722.post-76970236521236896302010-08-17T14:25:15.373-04:002010-08-17T14:25:15.373-04:00those words...'I have fewer years to live than...those words...'I have fewer years to live than I have already been alive on this planet' are in my thoughts a lot these days too. One never knows what is behind the next bend...sometimes it is daunting to carry on. I can only hope for bright days surrounded by love for however long you all have together...Teri and her Stylish Adventure Cats https://www.blogger.com/profile/00995773243323674858noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3706571093501032722.post-45724836625730830842010-08-17T11:32:09.281-04:002010-08-17T11:32:09.281-04:00just came back to see how you are doing...not that...just came back to see how you are doing...not that I can tell really, but wanted to just BE HERE for you again. And send some hugs.Lynn Cohenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12094038275377357886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3706571093501032722.post-7881814899125841452010-08-16T20:45:09.181-04:002010-08-16T20:45:09.181-04:00All I can say is thank you to you all - good frien...All I can say is thank you to you all - good friends. <br /><br />thank youMimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12409455543895086283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3706571093501032722.post-6091318778645448722010-08-16T12:08:32.318-04:002010-08-16T12:08:32.318-04:00Mim, I am back.... I thought about you, your DH a...Mim, I am back.... I thought about you, your DH and MIL a lot over the weekend... especially as it was your birthday... this is a dark time for you all.... and believe me, I understand dark times.... there REALLY is a path through the woods back into sunlight..... it is hard to find....BUT, although we are new friends, I have NO DOUBT you WILL find it....I have confidence in your strength.....<br /><br />Love,<br /><br />♥ Robin ♥Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15247046205493711677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3706571093501032722.post-57097347953228724622010-08-15T20:10:57.331-04:002010-08-15T20:10:57.331-04:00as everyone says the shock of realising the implic...as everyone says the shock of realising the implications is what hits us first and so hard. I hear all of your concerns and know exactly how you feel.<br />Have you thought about getting out the video camera and recording some of your husbands childhood stories as told and remembered by your MIL, it would be a lovely gift for her to give to him via you. <br />Just a thought.<br />Sending you love.<br />xxmichelleAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3706571093501032722.post-42029056360172404982010-08-15T18:29:24.362-04:002010-08-15T18:29:24.362-04:00mim, i am so sorry. there is another side past sho...mim, i am so sorry. there is another side past shock and grief. you and t and your mil will find it. time will help you. <br /><br />and nothing is certain. i'm wrong: this is certain: you will pull together as a family, as renee says, together stong. <br /><br />i wish i could put my arms around you right now. i will soon, mim. <br /><br />damn damn. take care of yourself. i know you will take care of t and your mil.<br /><br />love<br />kjkjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15122196887043345981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3706571093501032722.post-23723732705937680722010-08-15T16:28:51.059-04:002010-08-15T16:28:51.059-04:00They say that Getting old isnt for sissys and its ...They say that Getting old isnt for sissys and its so true. My heart goes out to you all for all the decisions you will have to be making now. Not much more I can say that everyone else hasnt said already. We are here for you.Cris, Artist in Oregonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15067969984221375853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3706571093501032722.post-67484566023285579122010-08-15T16:19:24.100-04:002010-08-15T16:19:24.100-04:00There is nothing to say Mim. Sadly it comes to us ...There is nothing to say Mim. Sadly it comes to us all and a huge reminder of our own mortality. I feel for you as I'm an orphan myself although my inlaws are alive and well and also in their 80's. Sending you a bright light to shine on that path. It's not going to be easy but it will be better if you can hold someone's hand along the way.Bainohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14156193098088048637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3706571093501032722.post-40444295708338000472010-08-15T13:15:25.883-04:002010-08-15T13:15:25.883-04:00Mim-death really isn't so bad-it's the par...Mim-death really isn't so bad-it's the part leading up to it that sucks. You are brave and you will walk this path with your husband and your MIL until she must go on alone. Walking the path with her-not looking away-that will be your final gift to her.<br /><br />It is not an easy gift to give-but you will give it with all the love and courage I know you possess. And she will be oh so grateful. <br /><br />Much love for you my friend.Debra Kayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13455047894767524091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3706571093501032722.post-71087978528230398122010-08-15T12:24:24.517-04:002010-08-15T12:24:24.517-04:00How can one be stoic about looking at the end of o...How can one be stoic about looking at the end of ones life? My mom went out kicking and screaming literally in the ER when told she was dying. She yelled "I do not want to die!" Not very dignified I guess, but I dare say I will feel and act the same. For her it came on suddenly and she had 20 mintues to give it her all in defiance! She was 82. I think a lot about death and dying as each birthday seems to push me further in that direction meaning I know full well I have fewer years to live than I have already been alive on this planet. I guess I just love life so much I cannot imagine not going on and on. So my heart goes out to your MIL. It has to be hard as hell to get that proclamation that the end is now in sight. Now she knows from what she will die. <br />For me it's like a big shoe "up there" waiting to drop...without knowing what, when or where.<br />So my heart goes out to you too, and to her son and family. This is hard stuff. I can only send my hugs and love and wish it wasn't so. I am kicking and screaming for her!<br />I pray she can be kept pain free and will have some happy times between now and then.Lynn Cohenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12094038275377357886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3706571093501032722.post-85233463186470669922010-08-15T11:45:33.275-04:002010-08-15T11:45:33.275-04:00I am sorry to hear this Mim. Life can be so unfair...I am sorry to hear this Mim. Life can be so unfair and brutal. Try to keep your head above water. Watch for that light in the forest.Lisa at Greenbowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07743973292900758183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3706571093501032722.post-49706954371250889032010-08-15T10:40:53.161-04:002010-08-15T10:40:53.161-04:00Doesn't it seem like there's always someth...Doesn't it seem like there's always something around every bend in the road? Just when you think you've overcome one obsticle, here comes another. I feel sad for you and your husband. Getting older is simply full of potholes in the road. I wish you many more happy times together.Katiejanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10703557560000189704noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3706571093501032722.post-6565321062748520632010-08-15T10:05:02.353-04:002010-08-15T10:05:02.353-04:00Mim, what can I possibly say to add to the eloquen...Mim, what can I possibly say to add to the eloquent and wise comments left before mine? I have lost both parents many years ago....so I know full well the many memories that one feels will vanish when the remaining parent is gone....BUT....YOU remember them and perhaps now is the time to start telling your children those stories to keep DH's (and your own) history going.<br /><br />It seems glib to say "take it a day at a time"....but really, that is all you can do. Your MIL seems to be in a good place mentally - and I am saying prayers she stays in that mode....and that you and DH can make wise decisions for ALL of you regarding her furure care.<br /><br />I am far away geographically....but I am right here for you - always.<br /><br />Sending you many, many prayers....and much love,<br /><br />♥ Robin ♥Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15247046205493711677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3706571093501032722.post-58432104355230849992010-08-15T07:18:25.602-04:002010-08-15T07:18:25.602-04:00There is no logic nor humanly devised fairness to ...There is no logic nor humanly devised fairness to what happens to us in life for life is an organic situation and not one that bows to man's desires and straight line plans. alas.<br /><br />My heart wept when you said there would be no one in your Dh's life to remember him as a baby. He is, as soulbrush says, very lucky to have you to help him and be by his side.<br /><br />Your MIL, I agree, sounds brave in the face of this conundrum. and yes, she has had a long life, and is surrounded by loving people. I send prayers and love and light. Namaste, Sukisukipoethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09351851210507048174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3706571093501032722.post-49158741199256677872010-08-15T06:34:10.925-04:002010-08-15T06:34:10.925-04:00there is so little I can say to help you, my heart...there is so little I can say to help you, my heart weeps for you and specially for T. now you will be the one to remind him of those times when he was young, and to help him with them. life is hard and often we don't get to die in a dignified manner. I am sending you lots of hope and peace and acceptance all wrapped up in this one little comment.soulbrushhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16879115279499153124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3706571093501032722.post-37689758202686114762010-08-15T03:28:29.947-04:002010-08-15T03:28:29.947-04:00I'm so sorry, Mim, but she has certainly had a...I'm so sorry, Mim, but she has certainly had a long life and seems to be handling her situation well.Snowbrushhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00436087215476479042noreply@blogger.com