I have a bit of a different approach for this one this week.
Here is the background.
I had a serious disagreement with someone at work - actually I was calm and fairly collected and he was picky, accusatory, and inflamatory.
I went home shaking with anger and some grief over this episode.
Somewhere during the night I decided to do a mitzvah for myself and instead of (1) quitting my job in anger and frustration or (2) going to HR or (3) sulking or (4) keeping quiet about it and putting on a good face...I decided to do (5) talking to the person and working out the difficulty to my satisfaction.
And I did and it worked (for least for now, this person is a bit volatile at times, and these are tough times at work) and I feel better and had a few good chuckles in the end.
So I am counting this as a mitzvah to myself - sorely needed.
Plus I am seeing Grace and the boys for dinner - triple mitzvah for me.