I can say that the actual birth/pregnant experience, was only transformative for me really. It was completly secondary (other than cause/effect) to the process of being a mother.
This is not isolated to the human world. I once had a cat that bore kittens, and she would nurse the kittens as required, but have nothing else to do with them. Luckily for the kittens, I had a silky terrier, a male, who adored them, and it was the dog that carried them out of the box to let them play on the lawn and would doze in the grass keeping an eye on them.
At the time I thought it a bit sad, because the Momma cat missed being a nurterer and the poor (so I thought) dog was trying to do something he never would be "able" to do. Now I realize it wasn't sad at all, but very sensible-each got what they wanted according to their wishes, not gender or society's expectations.
I also think we are missing out by our American way of not raising a child as a group. Unless the parent is a perfectly balanced zen master, too much influence only has to be undone later-and by minds that may be too rigid to undergo the process.
One of the things I am learning is that we do get the same experiences via different vehicles-so that if you miss one event (say giving birth) you don't miss the lessons from that event, you just learn them in other ways.
Oh crap, now I have to go think about that-because I've been discounting other people's experience in one area (weight loss) because they didn't have a significant amount of weight to lose.
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Ahhhh, I'd let him pick the movie.
beautiful words
so true...
just giving birth to a child doesn't make one a mother, it is the care and love we share that makes us mothers..
I can say that the actual birth/pregnant experience, was only transformative for me really. It was completly secondary (other than cause/effect) to the process of being a mother.
This is not isolated to the human world. I once had a cat that bore kittens, and she would nurse the kittens as required, but have nothing else to do with them. Luckily for the kittens, I had a silky terrier, a male, who adored them, and it was the dog that carried them out of the box to let them play on the lawn and would doze in the grass keeping an eye on them.
At the time I thought it a bit sad, because the Momma cat missed being a nurterer and the poor (so I thought) dog was trying to do something he never would be "able" to do. Now I realize it wasn't sad at all, but very sensible-each got what they wanted according to their wishes, not gender or society's expectations.
I also think we are missing out by our American way of not raising a child as a group. Unless the parent is a perfectly balanced zen master, too much influence only has to be undone later-and by minds that may be too rigid to undergo the process.
One of the things I am learning is that we do get the same experiences via different vehicles-so that if you miss one event (say giving birth) you don't miss the lessons from that event, you just learn them in other ways.
Oh crap, now I have to go think about that-because I've been discounting other people's experience in one area (weight loss) because they didn't have a significant amount of weight to lose.
Wow, little Buddah started an entire meme!
Such a nice comment. I agree with Deb, let him pick the movie : )
majority says let me pick the movie
:)
o ya i have two baseball games on Saturday and there really close to here so if your bored and need something to do there you go.
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